thanks for all the love everyone. it put alot into perspective (altho Chari was crying wolf).
the weekend got even crazier but we spent some time together on sunday and we talked and i basically broke down. i told him about the one relationship that scarred me and he's willing to work with me but i've got my own part to play. i need to be willing to let go of all the hurt, i need to be ready to make a full and permanent recovery and i need to stop second guessing everything.
i came to the realisation that my dispostion ( the distance and the 'whatever' way i handled the relationship) was a likelihood to make him seek for attention from someone else (the Wumi saga). i wanna right all the wrongs now and i'm looking to God for help. even if this relationship isn't gonna last a lifetime (God forbid, God forbid, God forbid!) it's worth working at, i mean, he's on the receiving end of most of the bullsh*t and he still wants to work this out, which one is now my own?
p.s: Mrs Jones (his mum) noticed that i've always been quite emotionally detached and cold and she had 2 questions to ask:
1. am i straight? (ahn ahn, isn't that a tad extreme. i may be a li'l boyish but errrrrr, it's not that bad.)
2. am i seeing someone else? (course not!!!!)
anyways, i'm letting go, letting God and letting love.
thanks again everyone and please do come back again and again. xoxo
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1sssssssssst! WOOHOO!
How u been??
Let me go catch up!
sorry, i bit lost wit wot is going on, but maybe if i read more posts i'd understand. nevertheless, it's always a good thing hitching our hope & strength on God.
"Ruffin' It" is launched. If u haven't been there, follow my link ...
Finally caught up..phew!
Im happy u had the talk n poured everythn out..hopefully things'll be smoother from now on..
LOL @ mrs jones askin u those questions!
U sound a lot better..pls let it remain that way! Take care hon!
Mwah!
awww...sweetie...hang in there ok...only God can heal a scarred heart...so give him all your pain, all your heartache and let him fix you. am glad mr jones is willing to hang in there...just take it one day at a time ok...and focus on the future not the past
Hmm Mrs Jones' questions! hmm i dont want to comment much except that whatever issues you have should be sorted out between you, mr jones and God...getting family involved isn't always the best esp mums.
It is well with u dearie...
Im glad u are feeling better and u r working towards putting things together ..Take care girl
I have to say, it's not fair when you judge or act a certain way in a relationship because of past experience. If you want to make it work, you have to shelf and forget the past. This is a different guy, especially when he's trying. You're not helping thinking the past will come again, means you've haven't moved on fully yet and if you haven't, you shouldn't get into a new one or else, it will be a rebound thing and rebounds don't last forever like you want this one to.
People will have different opinions from mine but this is my view. New guy, new relationship. Past is past, leave it there. I'm not saying don't be cautious and stuff but you're overdoing it and it's just going to hurt you.
Let go and let love!!!
First time here, and B'cup dear u r not meant to be on blogville till November so...
Im not quite sure I understand wat's going on here, but I wish u all the best in ur new relationship. U r gonna have to work on not making ur new guy feel the heat of ur past relationship, no doubt he wud get a lil' chain reaction, but he is also gonna have to put in some work too...
ciao
....H2O
o so now am crying wolf abi? ur yansh!!!!...u will kill me for what naa??? nothing do you joo!!! do u know how many girls have tried and failed??? ehenn i didnt even tell u...I had vodka dreams mehn....FOR TWO!!! buhahahaha!!!
good for u, nd he's definitely worth holdin on to if he's ready to work with u on ur issues. take care of urself. btw, mrs jones first question is so weird, coming from her.
Take it easy. I think its better u have talked over ur issues.it'll b fyne.
Im gla yo two managed to work things out. hopefully the short break wil have made you guys realise how much you mean to each other and made your relationship stronger. Most people nevr get a second chance at love so make the best of it.
I guess it is good you guys are giving it a second chance, u would avoid making the mistakes you made the first time. Give love a chance again. Good luck
Good you guys are taking the time to try again. Came here per instructions of the Buttercup/Charizard crew.
I am happy fo una o. Love is Lovely. I know its almost impossible to just let go of the past because its changed you and your past will always be a part of you but you must try and thats all that he and the world can ask from you. Goodluck!!!
@ h2o..whatever jo! We decided ystdy that i had tried, stayin away that long, no?
Oh...I came here when everything is over...
I'm glad things are getting better...and may God give you complete healing of the past relationship...
I'd recommend "Woman Thou art Loosed by T.D. Jakes" It was the book that helped me heal and enjoy the relationship I was in...
Yayyyyyy!!!! You followed your heart! I’m so happy with the outcome of all of this. Like I said, please let what’s in the past stay in the past. See this as the re-birth of your relationship. I’m really happy for you and the Mr. I’m definitely addicted to your blog now. I’ll check regularly to make sure things are cool on your end! *sigh*…so happy for you!!! *walks away smiling…*
glad things are falling it place... God is definately on your side..... Keep being strong.... n hold on..
buttercup...thanks for all d love and i swear i was damn confused about those questions.
fff... i know u r in on d gist now. thank u for all the kind words.
aloted...gracias. i really wish his mum didn't get involved but it has happened, i've just gotta get past it and pray it doesn't happen again.
bookie19...many thanks.
invisible...it felt like u were shouting me down, but trust me, i really needed that. thanks boss.
h2o-works...leave my buttercup jo, she's allowed to take a break from the books:-)thanks alot.
chari...u're hopeless, vodka dreams, eh? but really, don't know what i'd do without all ur support. i'm the one who's sucking up now, dayyyyuummm!
rayo...thanks babes. d question was ridiculous, but i'm glad she asked and didn't just conclude in her mind.
naija idol...i will do. thank you so very much.
miss definitely maybe...i really want to and i'm going to. thank u.
oyinkansola...honeydropz...thank u very very very much.
solomonsydelle...thanks for visiting. bless u.
temite...thank u. xoxo
rita...Amen, thanks alot. i've heard about that book. i need to go buy me a copy. thanks for the heads up.
kemberly...thanks babes. would be looking fwd to the check ups :-D
beyond...i will. thank u. bless u.
to everyone: i can't thank u enough. just reading all ur comments makes me wanna put a million percent to this healing process and i mos def will. may God bless u all. tons of cyber hugs and kisses for everyone.
You thought I was shouting you down??? You should ask B'cup or go read her post on this 'unknown' ex-boyfriend, you'll see me shouting down. This one was me sitting across the table talking gently. lol.
Been there. Got closer to God. Did everything he asked me to do (including my keeping my virgin 'stats'), prayed and even fasted (lol! but the fasting was not just for the relationship though). I so happy with the way things turned out. Though it took a while, time heals and you're trusting God so you'll be fine..... Phew!! Now I sound like a pastor!
invisible...if that was u talking gently from across the table, i dont wanna know wot shouting me down feels like. this would do just fine...lol.
abujamaiden...preach it sister,lol. i'm really praying o, would consider fasting just to seal the deal.lol. thanks alot.
Hello, dont know exactly what's going on but take it easy sha.
hey..glad it all worked out!!
suck up some more love...stuntin is a habit u knw...lol...
u didnt even ask the vodka dream...*hiss...
ok am driving to K's Place in a Greygoose bottle ride...and I park and ur talkin to ur boyfriend who's in an absolut bottle ride...then ur standing ryt next to your SCHNAPPS bottle vehicle...I KID YOU NOT!
please dont ask the ergonomics or engineering of a vehicle like that at all abeg..i was dreaming...
no fair! ur takin all ma traffic!
lol glad u have it jooo....guess who's blogville's new star....
*drum roll*
Miss Jones!
so happy for ur positivism...xoxo...
Umm im about to go back and read ur blog properly so i dont know the full story but i think its really mature of you to try and work things out with ur man, it speaks a lot of your commitment and how dedicated u are to the rship, pple like u usually have great marriages cos u work things out and dont throw in the townl i know i need that grace in my life ...,
naijaleta...i'm taking it easy o, thanks alot. and thanks for stopping by.
idk...muchos gracias.it's looking good.
chari...blogville's new star, yea right, then i'm ur protege. that ur very spooky dream, oh so it's me that was inside schnapps bottle...i'll get u!
misslove...hugs and kisses ryt back at ya.
padosh...that was very touching. i say a very big AMEN to that. may u find that grace, bless ur heart.xxx
invisible always seems like he's shouting pple down......but i guess he's just one of those tht speaks his mind.....yeah i ruined a relationship cos of second guessing....now i'll just let things flow....if its gona b it'll be.
invisible always seems like he's shouting pple down......but i guess he's just one of those tht speaks his mind.....yeah i ruined a relationship cos of second guessing....now i'll just let things flow....if its gona b it'll be.
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