so i put the call to my boyfriend's mum the other day. not bad really. it was a two minute ish call, exchange of plesantries, a little chat about how we were spending our holiday bla bla bla and it was over. the shocker however, was that she called me the following day "just to say hello". that feels like a good sign but i'm not gonna view it as acceptance or whatever, she might have just been civil, returning a call.

i really should point out that i'm not craving for acceptance from her but it's just nice to know she is in my corner. i've got African roots and families are our thing, large families, extended families. so it is quite impossible to be in a relationship and not be immersed into the family. hence, it is important to be accepted and if you are lucky, approved.

my mum and my boyfriend...love at first sight. they get along perfectly and i'll like to credit my mum for that. she is extremely warm, accomodating and realistic. realistic in the sense that she realises that my happiness is priority, so as long as i'm happy, she's alright with whatever choices i make. that said, if i start a new relationship today, the new boyfriend would enjoy the same warmth and accomodation.

long story cut short, i'm building a relationship with my boyfriend's mum. yay!

lost without him...very robin thickesque

a few days ago, i left home on holiday. it totally sucks to be without my boyfriend. i really wish we had come on holiday together but he could not come because he doesn't get time off work until much later. i have a whole lot of free time on my hands so i decided to come visit family.

my boyfriend and i only get to see on the weekends when he's home. it's thursday today and normally, this is the day when my happiness builds up because i know it's only one day in between before i see him. however, i'm a little sulky today because i will not get to see him this weekend, not get to hug, nor kiss him, nor just sit with him and catch up on what we both missed in each others lives during the week. i will not get to go work out with him and ogle at his hot body when he comes out of the pool. God, i miss him. we speak on the phone everyday but it still isn't the same.

why am i making a big deal out of this?? because we've never been away from one another like this since we started dating. i know it's bound to happen sometime but why not when we are a little choked up and therefore need a holiday from each other, or why not when we always seem to be fighting and the distance would do some good to the relationship?? why now?? when i'm falling deeper and deeper in love with him, when i don't want to spend half a second away from him. i know i need to wake up to the reality that relationships are not like this in the real world, but i need something for me to reminisce on when i'm living in the real world, that'll get me through the fights, the rocky roads and the moments of uncertainty.

at the moment, my boyfriend's mum is in the same region as me, on holiday as well. i got her telephone number off her son. we have a cordial relationship, but i'm just unsure of what to say to her when i call. i'm clueless as to whether i should go over and see her or maybe go out to dinner with her. the thing is the relationship got to the 'meet-the-parent' stage pretty early and that freaks me out a little. well, if i'm going to get from miss to mrs, i might as well build on my relationship with her, she might be 'mother-in-law', who knows??